Online dating is very different from offline dating for most people because the dating “rules” change when physical presence isn’t a factor any more. There are a few similarities though. Moving too fast can happen with offline and online dating. Studies have shown that even with the lack of physical presence, it’s still very possible to feel a strong connection with the person you are interacting with. This is exactly what may propel you to move a bit too fast. However, it may be a false sense of connection that disappears once physical presence gets into the equation.
Don’t Loose Yourself In Fast Online Dating
That is the reason why when it comes to dating – it is always a good idea to take things slow.
Here are a few ways to tell if you are moving a bit too fast with online dating and what you can do about it:
1. Expecting the other party to reply RIGHT AWAY.
Let’s say you met someone exciting and now you’ve been Live Chatting for a couple of days. You’re really into this person, you two have a lot in common and you think you’ve hit the jackpot. You decide to send her a cute message in the morning and then she doesn’t reply until the next day. You feel sad and think this person is slipping away. STOP IT! You are getting ahead of yourself.
What can you do?
At the early stages it makes sense for people not to be available right away. You don’t want to make her feel pressured do you? The best idea is to leave it be.
2. Talking about meeting the family.
Wanting to introduce a special person to your family is perfectly understandable. As long as you don’t suggest it after one month of online interactions. You are moving in lightning like speed with a mindset like that and it is very probable you will scare her away. You need to know her much better before you come out with this idea.
What can you do?
Propose this idea at the right time: 1. You two know each other pretty well, 2. You’ve actually met in person, 3. You have a grip on where the relationship is going.
3. You fall head over heels.
This happens to both guys and girls – idealizing the person that they’re interacting with. People build each other up in their head and lose the sense of reality. This way meeting in person can be a very disappointing experience. It is understandable that everyone wants the best for themselves but it is very important to stay grounded during the process of searching for the right person.
What can you do about it?
Try to be realistic about it. Don’t have extremely high expectations – this will take the pressure off of both of you.
These are a couple of points to be mindful of so you don’t rush things with online dating. Come back soon for more dating tips!