We all know how problematic it can be when you are trying to prepare for a date, especially a first one, even more so with someone you really like. Sure, you want to leave a great impression and hopefully start something great. If you happen to worry in life in general, then the pressure builds even faster. Also, if you happen to date online, there is a great chance you’ll be preparing for a date from someone from another culture. But, don’t worry, we’ve got you covered.
1. Plan where you’ll meet
You’ll possibly say this suggestion is pretty obvious, but you’ll be surprised how many people have unsuccessful dates just because they undermined the power of the good location. There are few tips you should have in mind: pick a place that isn’t too loud so you can have a conversation. A small café or a restaurant will be perfect. And don’t forget to pick some place where you’ll feel comfortable.
2. Preparing what you’ll wear
After you have picked the right spot, the next thing is to choose an outfit. Again, you should think in terms of comfort, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do your best and keeping things clean and neat. So, the best advice would be: wear something in your comfort zone, but slightly elevated.
3. Think about what you’ll talk about
This may sound like too much of a preparation for you, especially in the world where people value easygoing-ness and overall nonchalant-ness. But, bear in mind that in a situation like this, some preparation is very welcome, and it’s better to be safe than sorry. In fact, you might even feel more at ease when you know you’ve done your best trying to prepare for a date.
Anyhow, most there is no way to determine what a woman (or any person for that matter) would be interested in, but there are some general topics you’re safer to avoid, at least on a first date.
This is too heavy topic for a first date. And as much as you may be curious, just think about it. You wouldn’t want to talk about your exes while you are talking to someone new and exciting, right? Well, it’s the same for her. Plus, it’s kind of a slippery slope. You can blurt out something wrong in so many scenarios talking about exes, so it’s better to stay out of it.
Money, politics, religion
There probably isn’t a place on Earth where it is a good idea to discuss how much money you earn. You don’t want to come across as a bragger or someone who only cares about material things. Avoid talking about how each of you earn, how much you spend, how much your car or clothes cost. Also, leave politics and religion for some later conversations. They are really not that important when you are just getting to know someone.
4. Put your mind in a right place
This kind of thing is easier said than done, but it’s also very important step whey you are trying to prepare for a date. But, this doesn’t have to be intimidating: if you are having trouble calming down, try getting a workout in: lots of studies have shown that exercising increases confidence. Also, some people prepare by practicing conversation in front of the mirror. But, the most important thing: don’t forget to smile and relax – you can’t force things, you can only do your best and hope that works. And if it doesn’t, there’s always another try.